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Reassurance for the big 40!

Published July 27, 2017 at 10:01 am

It was over a decade ago that I reached the grand age of 40.  I received cards saying “Life begins at 40” and “You’re not over the hill yet” but boy oh boy did that feel strange. Middle age gets you like that as you are neither young or drawing your pension, you just feel ‘in the middle’ and that can take a little bit of getting used to.

The following points may help to reassure you that you are not alone in thinking…….”what has happened to me?”blonde-2094172_1920

  • Finding yourself. For some of us by the age of 40 we have experienced many things, good and bad and as a result we can sometimes be very reassured about where we are in life and what we want out of it. For some of us however, that stage hasn’t arrived and perhaps there still maybe some searching to do.  Either way it’s fine, don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t turned into a ‘life guru’ searching still, is a great way to feel young at heart.


  • The pounds won’t drop off. Yes, this can be an annoying fact for us middle aged people.  When I was younger I could easily shed half a stone in a week with some exercise and cutting back.  Unfortunately, our metabolism slows down and weight loss becomes a long hard trudge.  Treat yourself and join a slimming club! You’ll feel better for it, feel more motivated and you might even make friends.  We need all the help we can get, so take it.



  • Why am I so forgetful? This is natural although, most of the time it doesn’t feel it.  Forgetting things, not taking in as much information as you used to be able to or getting days mixed up is all part of the ‘middle aged thing’.  Get a calendar, write lists and a real asset to my household, is Post it notes.  Accept it…… need to write stuff down.


  • The mirror is lying again. I was having a conversation only yesterday about this phenomenon.  Looking into the mirror to see what appears to be a stranger staring back can be a little disconcerting.  We’ve all done this at some point or other, this will happen every so often, so be prepared.  It is a little shocking at times as it often takes you unawares.  Perhaps looking at a recent photograph or seeing yourself in the mirror at the hairdresser.  The only thing you can do is make the most of what you have.  If possible, treat yourself to a hair cut regularly, to the odd beauty treatment and most importantly use moisturizer.  It will help you to feel better and You really are worth it!



  • The meaning of life. You may find that you change your attitude to life priorities.  This is natural as we start to realise what really is important and, most importantly we probably have more time to contemplate.  We are often busy but perhaps not anywhere near as busy as we were in our twenties/thirties.  Embrace this time and freedom to fully appreciate what you have or indeed, what you don’t and work towards it!

If any of this resonates with you then why not drop me a line for a one off session?