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Are We Making Our Children Bored?

Published November 21, 2016 at 4:58 pm

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I recently read an article that questioned why our children may be getting bored and withdrawn in the classroom’. I thought it would make an interesting blog as it does beg many questions that we, might like to ask ourselves as parents! If this interests you, you may like to book on our January workshop? Early bird offer is currently available. Contact me or book on www.smart-lifecoach.co.uk.

  • Are our children over stimulated by watching and engaging in highly visual computer games I wonder? This could be why,  when children are expected to concentrate at normal levels (i.e. in the classroom or around the dinner table) they find it difficult and can appear bored and un stimulated. Technology disconnects us emotionally too, as we all know, ‘being there for our children’ is paramount for resilience building. Perhaps, we may want to consider our example to them and cut down on time spent on our phone!

 

  • Do we live in an instant society? I think the answer to that would be yes! We can get almost anything at the click of a finger. Drive through restaurants, one click websites, and instant information on our phone. Because our children don’t have to wait for anything and can immediately be entertained, fed and shopped for they lose the skill to think for themselves. They also become impatient at any gap in time. This can greatly impact on their success in their future as they find problem solving difficult. NO or not yet is rarely experienced in our busy lives!

 

  • Do our children ‘need’ to do anything? As we know in adult life in order to achieve our goals, get the bills paid and put food on the table we have to do things we don’t always WANT to do but NEED to do. We can feel as parents that we need to please our children all of the time and that means not making them wait for things. Unfortunately, in life we do have to wait and we do need to do things that are not always by choice. With this in mind, it might be helpful to encourage your child to persist in mundane activities like spellings…….

 

  • Life isn’t always about having fun, is it? Our children are constantly entertained, TV, iphone, laptop. There is never a dull moment in our action packed media lives. We no longer expect our children to help with household chores; if we do these are often a token gesture. Physical work uses little brain functioning and can be described as monotonous, this can be the same with spelling and reading tests. The brain functions at different levels (see article below). Therefore, through doing these simpler tasks we can help our children to function better in the class room as they will be better equipped to function at different levels.
  • Finally, outdoor activities, fresh air and team games have in some cases been replaced with technology, this is natural in our society. However, for some young adults playing games doesn’t necessarily mean a ‘real life’ on the pitch game. Instead it’s a ‘virtual’ on line game with people we may personally know and in some cases we don’t. It’s not surprising then, that some of our young people find communication within ‘real’ relationships difficult.

You might want to check out the full article as it’s an interesting read and makes some very good points! http://www.tuccionline.com/wordpress/?p=2611

The above questions are only a generalisation and are only indicative,  I do think it is worth however, giving them some thought!